God has given you something to say. We all enter this world naked and messy. We all have a starting point. We are all hardwired for something. We all speak words, words have gravity and YOU HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY!!!
The other day I told my little Reagan that she looked BEAUTIFUL. It was true. I cannot believe how pretty this girl is and I am in awe of it, as any parent should be. She threw her head back like Snoopy the dog and she believed that she was walking down some runway at a New York fashion show. These words set her day in motion and they carried weight because of my relationship with her. I am her father. It is important to her what I SAY.
Now lets shift gears. Each one of us has a past (you don’t have to look hard to find my skeletons) and that past is a launching board towards your future. I have met people over the years that have had some very interesting, colorful and wild pasts. I see many of them try like hell to distance themselves from who they USED to be. You can no more distance yourself from your past than you can change the shape of your feet (there are some ugly feet out there, starting with mine!). You cannot get any cosmetic surgery on your feet, that I am currently aware of, to make them look prettier. That is why God made shoes, right?
Now lets shift up another gear. When I was a kid I wanted Bill Cosby to be my dad. I loved his humor (“dad is great, give me some chocolate cake!”), I loved his discipline style (he didn’t make his kids feel like crap when they screwed up) and I loved those killer sweaters. He was one of my heroes. But, I always looked at the experiences with my father, in which he did make me feel like crap when I screwed up, he was not funny at all and his ties seemed boring, and I felt as though I had been dealt a bad hand. I wanted to be a dad like Bill Cosby and not the dad that I had!
What I was to young to understand then is that as much as I want to be DIFFERENT from my parents, I still have some of them in me. You see this especially come out when you start telling your kids the same zingers that your parents told you. Hopefully we grow a little and we have improved the parenting style a bit but we ultimately do some of the same things that we swore we would never do. Its actually a little deflating, isn’t it?
However, with our pasts (because we all have them) we must learn from them, and embrace them but most importantly we cannot let them DEFINE us. Our past is like your hair. You get what you get (and some don’t get much at all) and you work with what God gave you. I hear my children say this all the time, “you get what you get and you don’t throw a fit”. Throwing a fit about your past is like throwing a fit about the curly hair. I know that you wished it was straight but it aint! You do the best you can and if you live in humid Tulsa, OK, you will have curls pop out from time to time. There is nothing you can do but accept it. If you are balding then you really know what I am talking about here! You are not in control!!!
We all need to accept our pasts and understand that God wants to use it, the good- the bad and the ugly, to SPEAK words to those around us today. I had coffee with some buddies of mine today and it was really cool to hear them speak words of affirmation over each other. All three of us have had sketchy pasts with our fathers and two of us (me being one of them) had lived a large portion of their lives like they were the lead singer of Motley Crue. But what I saw this morning were three men, not running from their past but using it to build each other up.
The bible says, “that iron sharpens iron” and that we are supposed to sharpen each other. Build each other up. Encourage one another. This is what took place this morning. Three guys building each other up to be better businessmen, fathers and husbands.
Now, we come full circle to where I started in the beginning. YOU have something to say! I know that many of us out of insecurity and fear don’t SAY what we are supposed to say. We wonder whether people will accept us, judge us or believe us. YOU have to fight through this and say it anyway, come hell or high water! You don’t want to be on your deathbed one day in the future and you knew you had more to say. You want to have said EVERYTHING. The cursing, the loving, nothing was left unsaid.
So words have gravity…what kind of pull are you having on those around you? Are you a black hole that sucks everything in its vortex, where even light cannot escape or are pulling people into your “orbit” with life building words?
Try this for the next week. Every time you want to complain about your past, your present or your bleak looking future, take that energy and SPEAK LIFE into someone else.
I MEAN EVERY FREAKING TIME!!!!
Use your collective experiences and love others with them. Intentionally build up those around you with your God given breath. God SPOKE the world into existence. We are made in HIS image. Start speaking and creating worlds with your words. I would love to hear your feedback and you might be surprised how your crap starts to look pretty small.
Until next time,